When I was a kid I remember bothering my parents with questions like: “Are we there yet? When can we go? What if we had done this instead? Why couldn’t we have gone somewhere else for dinner?” etc.. My mother, who is always so positively calm in those situations, would always say to me, “David, just be where you are when you’re there” I’m sure my parents weren’t the only ones to deal with questions like this from their kids. In fact, I don’t think these questions are asked just by kids either.
Many of us still ask these questions when we are unhappy with the situation we are in. For me, as a kid, I would be unhappy sitting in the back seat of the car on a road trip wishing that we could be at Disney World already. In reality, we still had 15 hours of driving left to go. “Just be where you are when you’re there”, my mother said. Many times when she said this to me, I would shrug it off and continue to be pouty and unhappy. However, during the rare occasion that I would listen to her, I found myself looking out the car window and seeing the amazing cloud formations that took place in the sky. I started to appreciate the material of the seat I was sitting in and realizing just how smooth it actually was. I started to observe the change of scenery as we drove through the country-side on our long road trip from Chicago, IL to Orlando, FL.
I started to realize that even though my destination was magical and amazing, the journey was not so bad either. I started deepening my relationships with my bothersome older siblings who never seemed to cut me a break. Gosh how they bothered me so… but looking back now… I realized that the journey meant so much more than reaching an end destination. “Just be where you are when you’re there”. Whenever I lived in the moment, even in moments that seemed annoying, tedious, or never-ending, the destination seemed to arrive in no time. I found myself laughing with my family in the car and the next thing I knew, the sign for Disney World would appear. “Just be where you are when you’re there”.
“Am I there yet?” For many, this question might be in relation to weight loss. Let this question encourage yourself to step on a scale only to see that, no, you are not there yet. “Just be where you are when you’re there”. Maybe you are not there yet, but don’t let that discourage you. Instead, look at where you are and where you’ve come from. Not only are you closer to your goal than when you started, but there are many things to be grateful for around you that you do not want to miss.
- Maybe in the moment you noticed an ad for a new fitness class.
- Maybe you kept an open mind and attended that fitness class.
- Maybe you noticed someone who seems relatable.
- Maybe that person is a new friend whom you really connected with.
- Maybe that friend has the same/similar journey to go on that you do.
- Maybe you will help each other get there.
- Maybe they will become your new best friend.
- Maybe you would have never met each other had you never had to make the journey.
- Maybe the destination is even better than it would have been had you not made the journey.
- Maybe the journey is more important than the destination, because it makes you who you are today and tomorrow.
- Maybe that journey went by so fast you can’t believe you and your friend are at your destination already.
“Just be where you are when you’re there”. Those words helped me get to my magical destination. Give yourself permission to let them help you get to yours too! =D